caudelac: (*hugs*)
I like the movie "Legally Blonde," because it's all about how being a decent person and always trying to make life better for others rewards you with, well, rewarding and genuine friendships. You don't often see that functionality in a hollywood picture. My only complaint is that there was clearly some very awkward cutting/re-writes to fit the movie into a 1:36 runtime... I don't often say this about a fluffy romcom, but it really could have used the extra 24 minutes.
caudelac: (l'ordinateur)
When asked by The Barna Group what words or phrases best describe Christianity, the top response among Americans ages 16-29 was “antihomosexual.” For a staggering 91 percent of non-Christians, this was the first word that came to their mind when asked about the Christian faith. The same was true for 80 percent of young churchgoers. (The next most common negative images? : “judgmental,” “hypocritical,” and “too involved in politics.”)

In the book that documents these findings, titled unChristian, David Kinnaman writes:

“The gay issue has become the ‘big one, the negative image most likely to be intertwined with Christianity’s reputation. It is also the dimensions that most clearly demonstrates the unchristian faith to young people today, surfacing in a spate of negative perceptions: judgmental, bigoted, sheltered, right-wingers, hypocritical, insincere, and uncaring. Outsiders say [Christian] hostility toward gays...has become virtually synonymous with the Christian faith.”

This makes me sad, because in my adult life, this is not the Christianity I know. It is not the Christianity of my husband, or my Christian friends. I am not Christian myself, but I am extremely fortunate to be surrounded with loving, caring Christians who are not judgmental or narrow or nasty.

This was not always my experience. I too was told I was going to hell by older fundies when I was in high school and coming out. But I have always believed they were the exception-- and the extremely gay Catholic school nearby helped with this, to be sure. Anyway. That is why this is so disappointing. And it also explains the number of people with deeply held faith who avoid church, the number of denominations who have begun to loudly embrace gays, and the increasingly terrifying and vocal groups who withdraw to tiny enclaves so they can raise their children, "free of society's influences," who believe that you can't be Christian and gay, or Christian and a scientist.

This is a faith that is better than that, and that has a lot of good to offer the world. It shouldn't be used as a weapon.
caudelac: (wistful)
Copied from One Post Wonder, which is not public:

Last year I had five. Five is a good number, a Dust to Dust number. A solid state number. And whaddya know, I even kept most of them. So let's try that again, plus one:

1. Make some small amount of money from something creative-- writing, illuminations, whatever.
2. No really, get Quintessence of Dust LLC incorporated.
3. Do Yoga or DDR more. This includes, necessarily, actually taking my advair every day.
4. Drastically reduce impulse purchases.
5. Organize Dat House like woah.
6. Less paying attention to devices, more paying attention to Baby.

Solid state, home slices. Also, I didn't include supporting B's writing this year, because it is not something I need to remember, or that I might not do. It is of ambient importance. Like dat baby.

Stupid devices.
caudelac: (story: that way)
In which my husband published his story, Dakrah's Familiar, on Amazon. If you dig wizardly tales of wizards being wizardly, this might be your jam. If not, that's okay too. But I am very proud of him, ,and it is totally my jam.
caudelac: (*hugs*)
2014 Resolutions:

1) write something I care about besides Yuletide and DtD -- check. Also, didn't do Yuletide this year, so... yeah.
2) support B's writing and help him with a personal freelance website -- part the first, check. Part the second: in progress.
3) Incorporate Quintessence of Dust LLC (this is a gaming company for our IPs, mostly) -- not yet accomplished, though some steps taken.
4) Make changes to better support a) affording the life we want and b) not hating what I do. -- OMG SO ACCOMPLISHED.
5) Read more. -- check.

This is probably the best year I've had for resolutions, so I think 5 will be a good number when I make them in a few days.

Lessee... this year had new baby, new job, new state, brief apartment, new house, and all that comes with that. So glad to have the week off to be in FL with the parents, who are so glad to have all this baby time. Tomorrow, hopefully the weather will be nice enough to go to the beach.

A happy new year to all of you out there, and here.
caudelac: (*hugs*)
Child is now a couple days shy of 10 months, and is:

  • Cruising on furniture

  • Growing about 4 teeth

  • Babbling near-words

  • Able to say Dada, Mama, and Bop! The latter is mostly repeating us when we tap him on the nose.

And it is all still wonderful. Christmas with the In-Laws, then New Years with my folks in FL. I didn't rant here about the new house drama, but we're on the next to last (I hope) round of contractor work, after the plumbing, then the asbestos removal, then the waterproofing. Now it is just the drywall and floor repair, then the fixing of the concrete in the front where they did the plumbing stuff.

Fortunately, homeowners insurance is paying for most of this, but man will it be wonderful to have the bottom half of the house back.

And that's the news.
caudelac: (story: that way)
I just reaslied I have a hard time typing "destroy". I always want to auto-type, "destory."

Probably because I type "story" a lot more often than I type "destroy."

Which is probably a good thing.
caudelac: (complain!)
So, my husband is also a writer, and a damn fine one. What he writes-- what he excels at-- is pure, wizardly fantasy, of a kind that you don't really see these days, unless its mixed up with a lot of dull, self-aggrandizing heroes or torture porn. Think Jack Vance without the misogyny, with a bit of Steven Brust. Now, the circles I know are all weird fantasy, urban stuff, lovecraft, or aggressively looking for (and rightly) works by and about women and people of color. Which I adore, because those are all my street.

But where does a white guy writing straight up, crazy arcane and erudite Fantasy go as far as markets these days? I know those places gotta be still out there.

Anyway, he has finished a story I love, and which reads extremely well, in spite of his giving in to the desire to drop in as many arcane, five dollar words as humanly possible (noumena? Really?). But dear lord, I don't know the last time I read a book written in the last decade where the magic actually felt like... wizardly? Arcane? The stuff of massive, obscure tomes and decrepit towers and yes. I think that people think, "oh god, there's tons of that already, and we know how that works," but I'm like... is there, really? Because if there is, please, for the love of all that's holy, point me to it!

(yes, this is a call for recommendations. Because really.)

(also also, yay new house!)
caudelac: (story: that way)
I am doing the Clarion Write-a-Thon this year. I'd like your support, but if you don't wanna support me, there's lots of other awesome writers who would love to have your dollas. My goal is to finish 111 things-- whether chapters, short stories, poems, vignettes, whatever. I should post them somewhere when I'm done, huh? Maybe I'll do a self-published, "this is my brain on Clarion Write-a-Thon" antholimajigger.

Anyway, I already finished one weirdshit thing, at least for a first draft. It is a thing about a city, because I like to write about cities, and compulsion, and automatons.

Next, I am working on parts two and three of an epic poem (each part is One Thing), and a third novella in a trilogy that I did for Blogathon two years running. Y'know, thematic.

Then? Probably some more of the personal fairy tales that I started for my son, before he was born.

Y'know, we'll see.
caudelac: (l'ordinateur)
The things in my head fit Diarlyand more than here, though I'm not really posting there either. My writing time I try to spend on the projects that are more Need and Have-to.

And I signed up for Clarion Write-a-Thon this year, which is something.See it here. I have Ideas and Desire now, which is more than I've had in a long time, so that's good.

Monster is big enough to sit up in my lap now, though he still needs some propping.
caudelac: (Amuse me.)
(via [ profile] habiliments who was via [ profile] ironed_orchid

Anyone who feels like it should post their ten most CRUCIAL CRUCIAL CRUCIAL-ASS movies, like the movies that explain everything about yourself in your current incarnation (not necessarily your ten favorite movies but the ten movies that you, as a person existing currently, feel would help people get to know you) (they can change later on obviously).

Hedwig and the Angry Inch
M (1931)
Ma Vie En Rose
Adam and Steve
Silence of the Lambs
Double Indemnity
Schindler's List
Legend (1984) (Original and Directors Cuts)
Dead Reckoning
V For Vendetta

If I could add more, it'd be things like Go, Amelie, 50 First Dates, Parenthood, and LA Story. I dropped Trainspotting from the list because I simply can't watch it right now, due to horrible crib death... I used to not care, but now I simply can't endure it.
caudelac: (Goodwitch)
I like having a baby. I didn't necessarily think I would. I am a big fan of kids, rather less of babies. But this one is good, and makes me happy. Which probably has more to do with him being mine, than with him being a baby. And it is also exciting to watch him grow into different forms of baby-hood. Like a multi-form boss.

This form drools quite a lot.

It has been two months-- nine weeks in all, and it's difficult to remember that all the ways in which life is different are, indeed, going to stay different. But! I am in my element when things are changing. Not being in NC is good. Days are different and differentiated again, and that is good, and the things that I see and hear are more tangible these days, sinking in and settling with me beyond mere acknowledgement. Things resonate. It is a feeling I'd missed.

I like it here, in the city, in _a_ city, and everything tall and dark and lit up and down low all at once. I missed cities. It is like rubbing the circulation back into one's hands.

Yeah, yeah, we could raise our son here. Believe.
caudelac: (Goodwitch)
Home with the baby, watching Ru Paul's Drag Race: Untucked and Hunger Games, being a living vending machine, while B is out at a freelance thing.

Next friday, we move to Atlanta. Stressy, but good, I think. We have such friends and family there, and my in-laws are super delighted to have their grandson close. Now, we need a buyer for the house, which really shouldn't be hard, as wonderful as this house is.

Start new job the 7th, which gives me a week of unpacking time, and also pumping for storage. Whee!

Now, it is to not get dehydrated.
caudelac: (bliss.)
Somehow, sleep dep and dedication to the care and maintenance of an otherwise helpless human being leads to much more mental fortitude and alertness than being pregnant did. And much, much less depression. Who knew!?

Recovery on other fronts is slower, but that's all right. Baby has clean bill of health all around, which is the very best thing. And his daddy is pretty much a glowing ball of happy. As am I.

caudelac: (Default)

William Miles Vance Stoddard
7lbs, 13 oz
9:34pm, 2/18/14
Cary NC

He is lovely, and maybe I get some sleeps now.

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caudelac: (complain!)
Would be happier with waiting if the leave situation at my work were not so lame. I have 3 weeks. I could have another 3 unpaid, but can't afford that long off, so I'll be working remote instead. Neither cool or happy. Hopefully, the baby will be courteous, and thusly appear soonest.

It is to hope.
caudelac: (l'ordinateur)
I like to be snowed in with my husband. It is cozy and good. A little worrisome, what with my due date being Friday, but seems like baby is being good so far. Just typical wiggles and Braxton-Hicks.

Also, GOD I'd forgotten how badly done the RENT movie is.
caudelac: (FOOD.)
Oh I am a great galumphing thing; beware lest I stomple you!
caudelac: (cannondrag)
I have friends who are still stuck on freeways in Atlanta this morning, from their attempts to get home yesterday. You see, ATL traffic is always bullshit; tolerating the foibles of people who don't know how to drive in snow is like introducing a fully laden camel to a deluge of straw. A bunch of them had to abandon cars on the freeway and walk home last night also.

On the other hand, tons of people, who are awesome, offered food, shelter, and warmth to friends of friends and strangers last night. Home Depot and target let people sleep in aisles, teachers stayed overnight with kids who were stranded.

So people are awesome, and icy roads are bullshit.
caudelac: (Goodwitch)
And suddenly, she had gone from an A cup to a D cup. Whut.

Pregnancy is weiiiiird.

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